“It ain’t what they call you, it’s what you answer to.”
— W. C. Fields
The other day I met someone called Helena, and I was immediately envious. Not of her, exactly, but of her name.

When I was young, I desperately wanted to be Helena or Helene. They sounded so much more interesting and exciting, and it just required one added letter. Helena or Helene can become Lena, Nell, Nellie, or any number of variations. Helen is just Helen.
Australians are famous for shortening names, adding an “o” or an “ie” to almost anything, but there is not much you can do with Helen. It has always seemed a rather final sort of name.
People often use their middle names if they aren’t that impressed with their given ones. Mine is Stewart, so that wasn’t really an option. I tried out Bernadette as my confirmation name, but it didn’t stick.
The encounter with Helena got me thinking about names and why they matter.
As you may notice from the title of this blog, I’ve played around with names for years: hel’n’commentary, hel’n’damnation, heln’s yellin’ and 2hel’n’bac. Names matter to me. They always have.
And that, naturally enough, led me to Shakespeare:
“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet.”
I’m not entirely convinced. I think I prefer W. C. Fields’ “It ain’t what they call you, it’s what you answer to.”
Names carry history, personality, relationships and expectations. They are often the first gift we receive and, in many ways, the last thing people remember about us.
Take Helen, for example.
The name is forever associated with Helen of Troy, the face that launched a thousand ships and sparked a war. A woman so beautiful that nations fought over her. Yet that image has never felt particularly relevant to me. I am far more interested in figuring out how to sink the ships than launch them.
In fact, every time I hear the story of Troy, I find myself wondering about entirely different things. Who was the idiot who let a giant wooden horse inside the city walls without checking what was in it? Come on, people, you’re at war. The enemy suddenly leaves you a massive wooden horse and sails away. Surely someone should have thought that through.
And then there is Helen herself. Did she actually want to be rescued? Did anybody ask her? The story assumes that because she belonged to Menelaus and Paris took her away, Menelaus had the right to reclaim her. But perhaps Helen was perfectly happy where she was. Perhaps there was a reason she left in the first place.
History, mythology and storytelling often tell us far more about what people expected women to do than what women themselves may have wanted.
Names come with stories attached to them, and sometimes those stories are difficult to wear.
Imagine being named Rainbow in the 1970s or 1980s and growing up to become a fifty-eight-year-old tax accountant or the CEO of a multinational corporation. Names carry images. They create assumptions. Some fit us comfortably; others feel like clothes we spend a lifetime trying to alter.
I can remember being absolutely furious as a teenager when my sister-in-law introduced me as “Bill’s sister, Helen.” I remember thinking, why am I being defined by the relationship first? Why couldn’t I simply be Helen, who also happened to be Bill’s sister?
When Bill’s wife excitedly announced she was pregnant with the first Booth of the next generation, I remember my mum muttering under her breath. I asked her what the problem was.
“First I was Alex’s daughter, then Peter’s wife, and later Bill’s mother. Nobody asked me if I wanted to be anyone’s grandmother.”
That stayed with me.
As a result, I have always been very conscious of naming the person first, before the relationship. People are not extensions of other people. They are themselves.
Which is perhaps why I struggle so much with remembering students’ names.
Well, that’s not quite true. I know their names. I know their faces. The problem is attaching the names to the faces.
Faces are easy. People take time.
A face tells you what someone looks like. A person reveals who they are: their humour, their interests, their strengths, their worries, the way they think, the stories they tell and the way they interact with the world. It is only when I begin to know those things that a name settles properly into place.
I don’t really attach names to faces. I attach names to people.
This semester, with my fourth-year mathematics specialism pre-service teachers, I realised that after years of seeing them only once a week for a few hours during a semester, I can finally remember most of their names. Not because I have suddenly become better at memorising faces, but because I now know who they are.
A face alone means very little to me. What matters is the person attached to it:
- the student who suddenly understands proportional reasoning,
- the one who lacks confidence but keeps trying,
- the quiet one with the dry sense of humour,
- the student who asks brilliant sideways questions,
- the one who shakes your hand when they first meet you and immediately gives you a sense of who they are.
Once I understand something of the person, the name settles naturally into place. Before that, it is just a label attached to a moving blur that I see once a week for three hours over ten weeks, before they disappear again for six months.
It takes time to know people.
That is why names matter so much to me. A name is never just a label. It carries identity, personality, history, memory and story. Once those things exist, the name becomes real.
And possibly that is also why, after four years with this group of future teachers, I can finally remember who everybody is.
Or maybe the truth is closer to what Zsa Zsa Gabor said:
“I don’t remember anybody’s name. How do you think the ‘dahling’ thing got started?”
Whatever we call other people, and whatever they call us, eventually we have to decide which names we are prepared to answer to.
After all these years of wearing the name, I have made peace with being Helen.
Not Helena. Not Lena. Not Nell.
Just Helen.
Helen S Booth.
The “S” is important because there are many, many Helen Booths and Helen Stewarts, but there is only one Helen Stewart Booth.
And perhaps that name has become interesting not because of what it means, but because of the life that has gradually grown around it.
Over the years, people have called me:
- Hen,
- Chook,
- Fowl — a brother’s taunt,
- Hell,
- Lenny, – only one colleague so it didn’t stick,
- Miss — to which I frequently respond, “Stop missing me,” which goes straight over most students’ heads or receives an eye roll,
- Boothie — I put a stop to that one very quickly.
And I have called myself, or become:
- teacher,
- traveller,
- researcher,
- consultant,
- widow,
- storyteller.
Storyteller, perhaps, sits at the heart of all of them.
And along the way, I’ve given names to some of the chapters:
- hel’n’commentary,
- hel’n’damnation,
- heln’s yellin’,
- 2hel’n’bac.
Some were names. Some were nicknames. Some were roles I chose, and some were given to me by circumstances I certainly didn’t choose.
Perhaps W. C. Fields had it right after all. It ain’t what they call you, it’s what you answer to.
The name stayed the same.
But I’ve accumulated a great many versions of myself around it.
And, these days, I’m quite happy to answer to Helen.
























































































The contrasts that exist in the Pilbara are amazing and I’ll show you a few in the next post, but at the moment, at this time of the year, it is simply hot. It’s a bit like the build up in the Top End which at this time of the year, it gets more and more humid until it just has to rain and everything cools down and then it starts all over again. Here, it’s not the humidity that’s the killer; it’s the heat. It builds and builds, then a ‘cool’ change comes through and it drops to …. 38.
They then repeated with yellow weights that looked like a sombrero, which they labelled as ‘s.’ The students were totally engaged, which for this group was pretty impressive, and they were solving algebraic equations without realising it. When the teacher informed them the end of the lesson, they were all pretty impressed with themselves.




